Most of us will have had those times in our lives when just about anything that can go wrong does go wrong. Those times can be really hard to get through; they can be very stressful and upsetting and it can seem like there is no way of getting through them.

It can seem like that, but it is not true. Although it can be hard, it is possible to deal with life when everything goes wrong, and below are some tips to help you do just that so you can get through and out of the other side stronger than ever.

Remember it’s temporary

If there’s one thing that’s true about life, it’s that it is temporary. Nothing lasts for every and situations are always changing. So, the fact you have lost your job might seem devastating right now, but in a few weeks when you have found a newer, better role, it won’t really matter.

Keep in mind that situations are temporary and things can and do change, and it is fast easier to get through them.

Do what you practically can

Sometimes, when things go wrong there is absolutely nothing you can do, which means there is no point in worrying about them, Other times, there are some steps you can take to make things better, and doing them will help you to deal with the situation more effectively.

For example, if you have been arrested for drunk driving, instead of panicking and crying and thinking about the worst possible outcomes like jail or losing your job, call a reputable DUI lawyer, talk through your options, and plan a defense. Not only will doing something practical help you to solve your problems, but it will also provide a nice distraction too.

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Talk to people who matter

We everything goes wrong, the worst thing you can do is bottle up your thoughts and feelings and let the pressure build up inside of you. It is a far better idea to talk to the people around you who you know care, and who will support you no matter what. Friends, family members, and even close work colleagues can be a real source of strength when you need them most.

If you don’t have anyone close you can talk to, then getting in touch with a therapist who will listen to you non-judgmentally is a good alternative that can really help too.

Stay in the present moment

When everything in your life is going wrong it can be so easy to fall into a negative mindset where you start thinking about everything else that can go wrong. Your house had burned down so you start worrying that the insurance will not pay out so you’ll be homeless, you’ll lose your job, you won’t be able to look after your kids and on it goes.

It’s only natural to let your imagination run away with you like that, but actually, the worst-case scenario is usually not what will happen, and if you can learn to stay in the present moment and focus o ly on what you can do right now, you walk suffer much less.

Meditation is a great tool for helping you to stay in the present moment, so even if you have never tried it before, when things get tough it could be worth taking it up. 

Take self-care seriously

In stressful situations, it can be tempting to shut off completely or maybe to throw yourself frantically into trying to find a solution. Self-care often goes out of the window, but it really shouldn’t. 

The moment when everything goes wrong is the exact moment when you need self-care the most. So, be sure to take time out from worrying or planning or trying to fix things to simply sit down and relax with a good book and a cup of coffee or a visit to the spa or local park or whatever it is that makes you feel safe, calm and less stressed out. You need to look after yourself right now.

Release control

You can’t control every situation and every outcome and if you try it will only drive you crazy and make things even more difficult than they need to be. Lie has a way of working itself out so trust that will happen, do what you actually can, and release the rest.

When things go wrong, you might feel like you’re falling apart, but if you put these tips into action, you can deal with the situation and get through those tough times as painlessly as possible.

By Erica Buteau

Change Agent. Daydream Believer. Maker. Creative. Likes love, peace and Jeeping. Dislikes winter, paper cuts and war. She/Her/Hers.

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