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Take Matters Into Your Own Hands

There are many different scenarios where you become trapped in the role of victim and it can often feel like there is no escape when you have that sort of physical or psychological hanging over you.

In a violent relationship situation, for instance, you might decide to take steps to defend yourself by making a license to carry application, and the point to remember is that there will always be a path you can take to break free from your current mindset.

Here is a look at some of the changes that you can make.

Break free from the past

One of the most important things you need to do in order to free yourself from your victim mentality is to work on a way of releasing the pain of the past that is burdening your future outlook.

Work on a strategy that allows you to release all of the negative emotions by addressing them so that you can take back control.

Choose to take back control

It is never easy to find a way out when you are a victim but if you can be mindful that you hold the ultimate power over how your life moves forward that should allow you to take back control.

Step up to the plate

Ultimately, the only person who can assume responsibility for what direction your life takes in the future is you, and the best way to take command of your destiny is to appreciate that playing the blame game is not a viable strategy.

Choose your words with care

The words you use to describe your situation say a lot about how you are feeling like a victim.

If you can resolve to change your vocabulary to more positive terminology it can make a substantial difference to your mindset.

Avoid being submissive

A common trait amongst people with a victim mentality is to find it hard to say no.

If you can learn to say no more regularly it should free you from the mental shackles that you might feel restrict you.

Small changes add up to big improvements

You can’t expect to change the way you feel overnight but if you can implement small changes to various aspects of your life it will allow you to move slowly but surely toward a point where you no longer feel like a victim.

Talk about how you are feeling

You may need a bit of help to set you on the right path away from a victim mentality and that is why it might be a good idea to talk to a trained professional who can offer you guidance on how to develop the right mindset to put things right.

You may well be displaying a range of physical and emotional symptoms if you have been subjected to abuse of some kind and a therapist may be able to pinpoint the underlying causes contributing to your victim mentality.

Make these changes and you could find yourself on the way to breaking free.

By Erica Buteau

Change Agent. Daydream Believer. Maker. Creative. Likes love, peace and Jeeping. Dislikes winter, paper cuts and war. She/Her/Hers.

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