It’s a position we can all empathize with but when it happens to us it can knock us for six. Losing a loved one is heart-achingly painful. But after the initial shock and you have said goodbye to them comes the aftermath. It’s not just the legal issues or the personal ones but it’s also the emotional ones deep in your core.

Tying Up Legal Loose Ends

It’s something that needs to be done but when you’ve got to tie up all the loose ends, either in terms of the probate or the redemptive aspects of the situation, especially if all this arose from a terrible accident, it can feel like a struggle to get yourself to the lawyers’ office. But when these issues arise any personal injury law firm or local lawyer is there to make it an easier process. You may not want to go through all of this but it is something that needs to be done. If you can, make sure someone is with you. It can be a mental drain at the best of times. And while it’s all incredibly formal and professional they can almost forget that we are dealing with the possessions of a human being. It’s something that they do every day so, in theory, they should be empathetic.

It’s Okay To Not Be Okay

People ask you how you are and you say “I’m fine.” People that know you will be able to tell right away. And sometimes you might feel that you just want to say that you’re not okay and this is absolutely fine. We spend so long thinking that we’ve got to put a brave face on things or get back to normality as soon as possible. But we got to remember that the grieving process is about processing grief! If you don’t feel okay on a specific day that is fine! There is no right or wrong answer. You feel how you feel and this means that when you don’t necessarily want to do something that day and just want to curl up under the sheets, this is alright as well!

Let People Help

As most of us will tell people that we are okay on the surface if someone offers their help why don’t you take them up on it? Sometimes when we lose a person we love we easily think about retreating into our own shell. There comes a point when if you’ve been refusing to let people help you that it can be the springboard to a new start. There are numerous reasons we don’t accept help, that it might make us look weak or we’re not able to let people in. But the sooner we admit to ourselves that we need some form of support, the burden is released.

Everybody deals with the situations in their own way. But when you start to look at the three different components of the aftermath of losing a loved one, the legal, the personal and the emotional, there’s a lot to contend with, but it’s important for our long-term health to process everything.

By Erica Buteau

Change Agent. Daydream Believer. Maker. Creative. Likes love, peace and Jeeping. Dislikes winter, paper cuts and war. She/Her/Hers.

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